![]() ![]() “The interesting thing is men want to find a safe way of relating to each other,” he says. Geoffrey Greif, a professor at the University of Maryland who studies male friendships, explains that the confusion around the various names for platonic male relationships speaks to a larger question about how men show affection for each other in the first place. Friends are someone with whom you are happy to spend time with when you’re doing absolutely nothing at all, someone who doesn’t mind driving you on stupid errands someone who tries to help you.” Per its analysis, “Friends stand out in a group of people. While “friend” is used to describe someone you hang out with who you can talk to and laugh with. Officially, though, what exactly is the difference? (Mine and Yagoda’s opinion being unofficial, of course.)Īccording to, which contrasts the two terms point-by-point, “buddy” is an informal way to refer to a male friend. When I asked him if he considered his “gym buddy” to be his “friend,” he paused. “One of my gym buddies recently got engaged,” he told me earlier this year. For example, I have one very good “friend” who often refers to the men he happens to share workout equipment with as his “gym buddies.” In fact, deep down, you probably know that any time you spend with “your buddy” is confined to a golf course, an office, a coffee shop or an affinity for the same drugs. Referring to a friend as a buddy means that you’ve already made certain calculations in your head and the outcome is that you’re probably not planning on inviting this buddy to your wedding - or anywhere for that matter. Setting aside the fact that my first real friend was an inanimate doll named “My Buddy,” I agree with her. “It’s a word bros use for second- or third-tier friends is my understanding - maybe to feel like they have a vast network of close pals and also maybe to feel young.” “Basically, ‘buddy’ is the kind of designation where a guy will be like, ‘Yeah, my buddy in college once blah blah blah drank two handles of Dubra or butt-chugged moonshine,’” Yagoda explains over email. Why? Because if someone has a lot of “buddies,” that probably means they don’t have any actual friends. Last December, in a retrospective of her 2017 sex adventures, Broadly writer Maria Yagoda noted that along with buying some bitcoin, she stopped dating men who refer to their friends as buddies. ![]()
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